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August 2015

Is sex a necessary evil?

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:::: I’ve heard many people say, “Sex is a necessary evil.” I’ve always wondered what people mean when they say sex is a necessary evil, but I’m finding it difficult to get the correct answers. My curiosity led me to search on Google and this topic caught my fancy. “Why do most religions treat sex like a necessary evil?”

          These are some of the answers I saw on Yahoo Answers: [1]

“You mean as part of moral code? It’s because historically sex and procreation were difficult to separate. Most religions do respect sex, however they wish to put restraints on it because of heterosexual sex is about procreation first and pleasure second. They find it immoral to separate the two concepts. Sex is a part of life, but it shouldn’t dominate your life. Also unrestrained promiscuity is usually a negative both to the individual and to society as a whole.” Man in the Iron Mask

“Because they fail to use reasons to educate their children, they demonize sex to scare them .How has the “you’re going to hell” sh*t worked? Teengirls still get pregnant and don’t even know why. Sex should be treated like a sacred action of love, not evil. Get your children a proper understanding is the best way to protect them
I acknowledge this from the start, I consider the pros and cons with “I would share the genuine experience with only Mr.Right” in mind. I’m 18 and still a virgin, and that’s not because of any “hell awaits” No Chance Without Evolution 😉

“Because sex is the awful, horrible thing Daddy does to Mommy while Mommy pretends she is somewhere else doing ANYTHING, which is how you* came about — and even though I was in labor for 30 horrible, painful hours of pushing and straining and thinking my insides were going to split in two, we still ended up with YOU! Isn’t that wonderful, honey?”
*generalized, impersonal form of the word “you”, as a parent might say to a child; not specifically “you” as in “Bob”. Marq JPAA ·

“Because there seems to be some kind of deep-seated, psychological disgust with sex in general. I wonder if this is evolutionary or learned. But either way, religions raise people to go against their instincts and are punished for doing pleasurable things. Especially in the era from 1100s to the 1800s, there were heavy punishments and cruelties for premarital sex in many places.” Katlvr

“To avoid paternity disputes historically, they wanted to limit sex partners. It doesn’t make sense today.” ROBERTA

“Most religions are sadistic, and therefore against happiness. Everybody knows children are the main source of evil. Therefore, you must make more children. Source(s): My mom always calls me a Devil…that bitch” Anthony

“Because they fear sex . most religious men were not able to admit their powerless over their sexuality so they blame it on devil and made sex look dirty.” ? Unknown

“I hate sex. I wanna kill myself. I hate myself.” ? Unknown

Most of these answers are coming from a particular sentiment if I must say. I had to go back to source and the manual of life and this is what is says about sex.

         17 Save yourself for your wife and don’t have sex with other women. n18 Be happy with the wife you married when you were young.[2]19As a loving hind and a gentle doe, let her breasts ever give you rapture; let your passion at all times be moved by her love.[3]

1Shapely and graceful your sandaled feet, and queenly your movement —Your limbs are lithe and elegant, the work of a master artist.2 Your body is a chalice, wine-filled. Your skin is silken and tawny like a field of wheat touched by the breeze.3 Your breasts are like fawns, twins of a gazelle.4 Your neck is carved ivory, curved and slender. Your eyes are wells of light, deep with mystery. Quintessentially feminine! Your profile turns all heads, commanding attention.5 The feelings I get when I see the high mountain ranges— stirrings of desire, longings for the heights — remind me of you, and I’m spoiled for anyone else!6 Your beauty, within and without, is absolute, dear lover, close companion.7 You are tall and supple, like the palm tree, and your full breasts are like sweet clusters of dates.8 I say, “I’m going to climb that palm tree! I’m going to caress its fruit!” Oh yes! Your breasts will be clusters of sweet fruit to me, your breath clean and cool like fresh mint,9 your tongue and lips like the best wine. Yes, and yours are, too — my love’s kisses flow from his lips to mine.10 I am my lover’s. I’m all he wants. I’m all the world to him!11 Come, dear lover — let’s tramp through the countryside.12 Let’s sleep at some wayside inn, then rise early and listen to bird-song. Let’s look for wildflowers in bloom, blackberry bushes blossoming white,Fruit trees festooned with cascading flowers. And there I’ll give myself to you, my love to your love![4]

         9 Life is short, and you love your wife, so enjoy being with her. This is what you are supposed to do as you struggle through life on this earth.[5]

        25 Although the man and his wife were both naked, they were not ashamed.[6]

         28 God gave them his blessing and said: Have a lot of children! Fill the earth with people and bring it under your control. Rule over the fish in the ocean, the birds in the sky, and every animal on the earth.[7]

All the above quotes from the Bible don’t seem to suggest that sex is a necessary evil. Is sex necessary in the confines of marriage? YES! If God has made me to enjoy sex with my wife and a person calls it evil, then I’m evil. If God made sex for procreation, and as a result I have wonderful children by means of sex, then I’m evil. If my wife gives me the necessary sexual satisfaction that keeps be at home, and someone calls sex evil, then I’m evil. If a person says sex is a necessary evil, and God says its good in the confines of marriage then you can call me evil all you want. I accept that I’m evil.

TheShepherd Loho-u-Ter Shadrach

End Note:

[1] You can follow the link to the page for more. https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110726174941AAvk6Om&page=3

[2] Proverbs 5:17-18 Contemporary English Version

[3] Proverbs 5:19 Bible in Basic English

[4] Song 7:1-5: THE MESSAGE: The Bible in Contemporary Language © 2002 by Eugene H. Peterson. All rights reserved.

[5] Ecclesiastes 9:9. Contemporary English Version

[6] Genesis 2:25. Contemporary English Version

[7] Genesis 1:28. Contemporary English Version

The Demise of the Church:

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Introduction

The Importance of contextualization and its relevance to the demise or the survival of the Christian church may not be fully grasped without understanding history. The demise of the Church in North Africa and Nubia and its survival in Egypt and Ethiopia is an eye-opener to any person or theologian who wants to grasp the importance of contextualization in our contemporary times. In trying to respond to the article—The demise of the Church in North Africa and Nubia and its survival in Egypt and Ethiopia: A question of contextualization? By Calving E. Shenk. The writer will respond to each of the four churches separately and the lessons he has learned with regards to the merits or demerits will be outlined at the end of his response.

  1. North Africa

With the current Christian presence and the dominance of Islam in North Africa, it is so unbelievable to relate with what Calving E. Shenk says that, “The North Africa church was the church of the fathers Tertullian, Cyprian, and Augustine.” It is more unimaginable to relate with what Shenk said that, “At one point the north African church became a citadel of Christianity second only to Rome.” The question on the researchers mind is how a church that became the spiritual center of Christianity would disappear as a vapour so quickly and completely? Shenk pointed out the factors that caused the demise of this church saying, “The church struggled with persecution, heresies, and schisms, and finally encountered Islam.” With all these reasons as concrete as they may seem, one major reason Shenk pointed out for the demise of the North African church was the failure to contextualize.

The trends the researcher has seen by reading and understanding this article is informing him that what he is seen in our contemporary times, history might repeat itself in other parts of Africa. He is sorry to have noticed that many churches are majorly concern with plating churches and evangelizing for probably financial reasons. It has come to the researchers notice that just as it was in the church in North Africa, the church today emphasizes its efforts in the metropolis and gives little attention to the rural areas. The evangelism today is porous, the few attempt to evangelize the rural areas is what the researcher calls the hit-and-run method of evangelism—going for a one time weekend outreach without concerning itself with what happens to the converts after then.

Whereas churches like Evangelical Church Winning All—ECWA are making efforts reach the northern rural parts of Nigeria with Hausa the trade language. Many denominations including ECWA are not particularly concern with indigenizing Christianity. The NKST church is worthy of recommendation for the trust of indigenizing Christianity in Tiv land. The Church in North Africa failure to develop Christianity as an authentic national church should be a lesson to the contemporary church to avoid the area of failure as it did.

The suppression of the Dotanist attempt to contextualize, the identification of the Christian faith with the imperial power, and appeal of Islam to the indigenous population were the other reasons for this church’s failure. These reason still consist in our times. Contextualization is sometimes misunderstood as traditional religion and Islam is still appealing in many ways. Islam does not really mind a holy lifestyle, there is permeation to marry several wives, and promise for great wealth. The church in our days therefore need to learn is lessons from the failure to contextualize from the north African church to take a resolute stand to fasten its grips to biblical theological truth and contextualize.

  1. Nubia

It is almost unbelievable that a church will exist for over a thousand years and yet disappear so completely, but this was the demise of Christianity in Nubia. The researcher is glad that Shenk said there are no simple answers for the demise of this church. The story of this church made the writer appreciate the wisdom of God from the pregnancy of a woman, child birth, and parental care. In the womb a child takes its nutrition through the umbilical cord, after delivery through breast milk and other food, and the parents care for such until they are left to stand on their own. The demise of the church in Nubia to the researcher mind is mainly because the church over depended on Alexandria, and the church underdevelopment in theological formation, and indigenization of the church.

Islam is another factor that brought the demise of the church, but if it was properly weaned from Alexandria, and properly discipled, the persecution from Islam would have still made the church to survive as it was in the case of the churches in Ethiopia and Egypt.

It is becoming an issue of concern where the church is now depending on Christian in political offices for its financial sustenance. The writer was recently in a Christian Association of Nigerian—CAN state leaders meeting in a particular state in Nigeria, where the governor of the state was in attendance and to his greatest amazement, up to 80% of the budget was from expected income from the state government. Early missionaries in Nubia focused their effort on Nubian kings, and the kings accepted Christianity for political reasons. The demise of this church was partially the politicizing of Christianity. If the church of our time, particularly in Nigerian does not take its time to learn from Nubia, great sorrows may be its lot.

If you will ask the researcher to summarize the reason for the demise of this church; he will say that, the urbanization of the church and the underdevelopment of the indigenous populace construed that the theology and practice of the church was un-Nubian.

  • Egypt

The church in Egypt started where a church that wants to survive will start. It started on the firm footing of sound biblical, and theological teaching—Catechism. The right theological foundation of this church moved it beyond the roman and Jewish circles to the Coptic rural populace. The persecution of the church was an added advantage to the survival of the church, expanding the church further southward, and rooting it to become a rugged indigenous church.

The tolerance of Islam to heavy persecution, oppression and martyrdom gave the church more reasons to stand. It earned it respect for its integrity, they had to pay heavy tax therefore giving up its material privileges in order to gain their spiritual heritage. Pressure of all sort still abound that may require us to give up our spiritual life for material privileges. The Copts should be a reminder to us when such temptations and pressure come forcing us to take a stand.

The church survived persecution because it did not concentrate its evangelism in the metropolis like the Nubian church. We ought to emulate this church if we care more for the kingdom of God rather than the mega churches in the cities concentrate our efforts on the rural populace.

We thank God for the translation of the Bibles in our Nigerian local languages through the instrumentality of the Bible Society of Nigeria—BSN. The Egyptian church survived because of the vernacular language and literature. The church of our time needs to also give more attention to translation into the local languages much more that it is doing for more results for the survival and expansion of the church.

The Coptic Church respect for leadership could be that the leaders also respected themselves. The challenge of leadership of our contemporary times is becoming grievous, there seem to be a growing rift between the clergy and the laity. It is sad that in many cases, the clergy do not earn respect but try to demand it instead. May the Lord help us to learn from the Coptic example of the laity/clergy relationship that made it survive for the contemporary church to also grow in lengths and bound for a sustainable revival and survival.

  1. Ethiopia

The researchers respect for the Ethiopian church stated after he watched a documentary of the church, and up till now it has never dwindled from Christianity. In the documentary, artifacts dating as old as King Solomon’s times were shown to still be in position of this church. The documentary alluded that the Ark of the Covenant is believed to be in one of the monasteries still in existence since the early time of the church.

The Ethiopian church as all the churches mentioned afore had their sting of persecutions. It however did not experience strong persecution in the early times of Islamic inversion until the rise of the Ottoman Empire where Muslims in the Ethiopian region became more aggressive. The state saw Christianity as its own and therefore valued its survival. Coupled with the strength of the church, the Portuguese by the invitation of the state came to the rescue of the Ethiopian church for it to survive.

With all the efforts the state and the church put in for the survival of the church, Shenk attributed the most important reason for the survival of the church to be its embeddedness in the Ethiopian culture. Whereas some people see culture in our time to be evil, culture has its good and bad side. The essence of contextualization is to see what is good about culture and imbibe it into the fabric of Christianity as regards to a particular peoples group for better communication of the gospel as such.

This church did not take for granted contextualization even though they did not know and called it as such. The church contextualize by evangelizing through trade. The researcher remembers his father in-law to have said, “If you go to a place and you cannot identify an Ibo person doing trade, run away from such, because is a dangerous place.” In Nigeria and probably the world over, the Ibo person is understood to be involved in trade. If Igbo Christians take more seriously evangelism into play, the expansion of the gospel through the instrumentality of trade through them will expand and establish the church much more as it were with the Ethiopian church as it spread the gospel along trade zones as Christian traders and their families migrated to such zones for the purpose of trade.

This church indigenized monasticism, localized its literature, music, art, and even its architecture. In the pastor’s induction course of ECWA, one of the ECWA vice president then strongly condemned the use of western music in the churches in northern Nigeria. He did not understand the vice presidents point so clearly then, until he fully understood when his lecturer Rev. Mipo E. Dadang PhD further explained the concept of contextualization in the contextualization class. Just like the Ethiopian church indigenized its church, it will be wise to plant church with the culture of a given peoples group in mind. For instance, a person plating a church in a predominant Muslim community in northern Nigeria, should consider using the architecture of the north, and use mats or carpets for worshipers instead of chairs.

The relationship with the church and the state helped the survival of this church. If the Christians in the contemporary church is involved in politics not for ulterior motives, their potential to encourage the growth of the church can be enormous. This church was unique for its ability to be involved with the state, yet stand firm with its theological beliefs. The church of our time also need to encourage Christians to get involved in politics so that it can take a strong grip on the polity. Democracy is a game of number, the more the church folds it hands, Muslims will dominate it and dictate what it should do.

Lessons learned with regards to merit or demerits for lack of or no contextualization in the North Africa, Nubia, Egypt and the Ethiopian Churches.

  1. The researcher has learned that lack of evangelism especially to indigenous peoples group in a given community has the ability to truncate or   eradicate the existence of the church. The demise of the church in North Africa and Nubia are classic examples.
  2. The researcher on several occasions have heard ECWA members saying, “ECWA na mu ne” (ECWA is our own). Many of such persons say so because they understand ECWA to be an authentic national church. I have learned that people will respond to the gospel better when you reach the in their culture.
  • It is very difficult to force people to become Christians. When you do, they will pretend but as soon as there is another option that appeals to them, they will go for it. The demise of the North African church was that, the peasants who evangelism them was not a priority to the church then saw Christianity as the imperial religion and this gave them the reason to naturally revolt against Christianity and the state. The researcher have learned to use love to reach people rather than might.
  1. The researcher have learned that even if something wrong or wrong teaching is work: like Islam, if the right thing or teaching is not tought, the wrong becomes appealing. The failure of the church to reach the indigenous North Africans properly and correctly, made Islam attractive.
  2. Rather than the Nubian Church to develop it indigenous theology, it depended on Alexandria to the detriment of the church. The researcher have learnt to look inwards for theological truths. The likes of the Kunhiyop and the Turaki’s are looking inwards for the development of an indigenous African theology, rather than always looking towards the west.
  3. The researcher have learnt that a people’s appeal to their language is even greater than the message a messenger carries. The Egyptian and the Ethiopian churches survived because of the language ties to their faith.
  • The researcher have learned that contextualization does not limit in a people language or dressing. The Ethiopian church contextualized in the way of trading to further the course of the gospel in the trade zones, and for that reason, the church survived.
  • The researcher have learned that to theologize deeply, indigenously, and culturally cannot be overemphasized. The North African and the Nubian churches failure was as a result of the lack of the above mentioned reasons, why the survival of the Egypt and the Ethiopian church was because they theologized deeply, indigenously, and culturally.

 A response by TheShepherd Loho-u-Ter Shadrach

Bibliography

Shenk Calvi E. The demise of the church in North Africa and Nubia and its survival in Egypt and Ethiopia: a question of contextualization? Missiology: An international Review, Vol 2. (Walnut Avenue, Scottdale: American Society of Missiology, 1993)

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